How many times have we seen it from politicians from both parties? They get caught up in a sex scandal and hold a press conference with their wives loyally standing behind them, eyes downcast, looking embarrassed and never speaking a word?

This is what I thought about when I saw Mrs. Spitzer, the latest and certainly not the last, political wife to go through that disgrace.

As I was on the way to a doctor’s appointment Tuesday the host on the radio station was asking listeners if Mrs. Spitzer were a chump or not.

One listener called in and said if this ever happened to him he would never put his wife through the public scrutiny of the announcement because he respects her too much.

Another said she probably did it for money.

My answer to this is it is precisely because these men have no respect for their wives that they do what they are accused of doing. As for the money, after the divorce she’ll have him wiped out financially anyway.

So why do they do this?

Hillary did it, but being a victim has always made her more popular. Sure, it was humiliation for her, but despite saying she wasn’t a “stand by you man” type of woman she is still married to him. Maybe there is some morbid kind of love there.

If this ever happened to me I would tell my husband he got himself into this alone and he can stand before the cameras and microphones alone. My absence would speak volumes, but I would never put myself through that humiliation and I would be out of the mansion as soon as I could get into a car and give instructions as to where to send my belongings.

What about the three daughters this couple have? How do you imagine they feel?

My aunt and I discussed this after I got home and she said she couldn’t say for sure how she’d react.

Maybe what I say now would be the opposite of what I would do, but just once I would like to see the aggrieved wife stay away while he gives an apology that is not an apology.

I wonder how others, male and female, feel about these situations?

Written by ~J~

One Response to “Spitzer’s Wife”

1. DJ Drummond says:

   March 12, 2008 at 2:09 pm

   Well, let’s start with the baseline analysis: A man who cheats on his wife is selfish. He is not thinking about his wife, his vows, his family, or his duty. So, when someone like that gets caught, he’s still going to be thinking as a selfish person, isn’t he?

   For my vote, the wife has the right to say or do (almost) anything in that situation. She is not obligated to do anything, for or against her husband. The problem here, is that in most of these situations we see the wife standing by her husband immediately after the story breaks - I think in most cases she is still in shock, and her first response is to protect her loved ones - her family if not her worthless spouse. In these cases, it at least appears that the jerk husband does what he does, because he can count on his wife to do what he should have done; think about the family.